10 Things 2014 Taught Me


2014 was different than 2012 and 2013. It was a lot less about big decisions and changes and instead a series of little things that made a big difference when added together. It was a year of growth and excitement that don't look like much to an outsider, but taught me a lot.

Here's what I learned:

1. Don't tolerate unhappiness in a major area of your life. Whether it be a job or relationship or living situation - there are too many good things in the world to settle for unhappiness.


2. Seek adventure but don't forget that it might be closer to home than you realize. In 2013, my adventure was a trip to Africa. In 2014, my adventures were in Atlanta, but that didn't make them less adventurous.


3. Wait. I really, really don't like to wait for things. But sometimes life is full of change and other times it slows down and makes us wait for what's next. That doesn't mean we're stuck, it just means we're not ready yet. Pray in the waiting. Seek counsel in the waiting. Grow in the waiting. And remember, you're not stuck in the waiting forever.


4. Friendships change. And it's hard and you feel the growing pains of it. But it's OK. Because as we change, our relationships naturally do too. No one is doing anything wrong. Sometimes we have to take up a little less space in someone's life in order for us to grow into new things.


5. Stable is not boring. Sometimes, I think we create chaos simply because things are too stable. The guy is too nice, the relationship isn't gamey, the job is steady. We create trouble for ourselves in order to compensate for something else that's lacking. We shouldn't do this. We should embrace stableness when it finds us - there will always be more ups and downs. Enjoy the chance to coast when you can.

6. Find balance. Life will constantly tempt us to become unbalanced and no one can keep our lives in check for us. I am a pendulum - constantly swinging back and forth between wanting to race forward and wanting to slow down. I have to continually seek balance or I easily get out of wack. And we have to do it in every facet - from what we eat, to exercise, to rest, to work. Balance is essential.


7. Happiness is seeking big things, but enjoying the little things. Every, single day there are tiny, beautiful moments that are so often overlooked. But they matter - they can make a bland day beautiful and a hard day a little easier. They are reminders that we are not alone. They are reminders that God has a plan. 


8. Some seasons are for harvesting and some are for resting. We need both, very, very much. Embrace both seasons.

9. We are enoughjust as we are and where we are. I learn it over and over again and every time I believe it more. We are nice enough, smart enough, funny enough, pretty enough. We do enough. We are enough.


10. We should root for one another. Because, in this world, there is enough room for us all to be happy and for all of us to succeed. Don't forget, we're all in it together.

Now, on to 2015!

home in indiana // the little things



I've been home in Indiana for the last 10 days and I'm sitting here this morning, sipping my coffee and soaking up every last bit. My parents' house has been packed with 16 people during the last week, but today we've dwindled down to just a remaining nine. It's funny how a house full of nine people can feel a little empty after a week with 16. 





Tomorrow early morning I fly to Charleston to meet Chris for a New Year's Eve wedding. As I sit here this morning looking around the house - at my nephew bouncing a ball and my mom drinking her coffee while wiping down the kitchen counters that aren't even dirty - at the simplicity and ease of it all - I can't help but think how it's the little things in our daily rhythm that make home feel like home. 



It's the way my dad always offers to cook every meal for us - a breakfast with bacon and eggs - when we would have settled for oatmeal. It's the way my mom goes to the store every day, just to make sure the fridge is packed with every food item we could ever imagine wanting. 



It's the way we drink coffee slowly in the morning, then again in the afternoon. It's going to bed early and getting up early, awakening to happy little laughter. 





It's driving around Zionsville with my brothers and pointing out where people from our class live - knowing which house belongs to certain people. It's seeing someone you know everywhere you go; no big city anonymity, all small town familiarity. 



It's the way my parents house feels warm and filled with love, even on the coldest Indiana days. 



It's knowing that even when it's over, we'll be back again soon. And knowing that other things may change, but the most important thing is always family.


gift guide: stocking stuffers

One of my favorite things to do when giving a gift is to add something small as an extra touch - something I'm loving or that really reminds me of that person. In other words, I like to tack on a stocking stuffer :) 

I rounded up a few of my favorites from this season - some might be a little bigger than the average stuffer, but, as far as I'm concerned, if you can jam it in to the stocking, it counts!

1. doTerra lavender oil: I love it because it smells amazing, helps you sleep, relieves tension and you can add a drop to your mascara to lengthen and thicken lashes. All from a tiny bottle! 

2. Simply Gum: Confession: I haven't actually tried this one, but Sam introduced me to it and I'm obsessed with the concept. It's 100% natural and made with only six ingredients. I can't wait to try it. 

3. West Elm Enamel Mugs: Melissa got me these for Christmas and I love them. They remind me of the dishes our neighbors had growing up. They're perfect for hot chocolate, I must say.

4. Batty's bath charcoal soap: Super natural, gentle way to wash your face. My skin has been really clear ever since using it. I love Batty's products, but make sure you sign up for the email list if you want to purchase - they'll send a free shipping code. 

5. Spartan shop Fletcha Tea Mug: Beautiful & happy! And I love a handle-less mug. 

6. Tarte Amazonian Clay Makeup: For the first time since I was 20, I recently switched to this makeup after hearing rave reviews. And the verdict? I love it. 1,000 people really can't be wrong. 

7. Perfect bars: I eat these every day for breakfast. They are the perfect on-the-go meal. No prep, full of vegetables and so tasty. On Cyber Monday I bought $100-worth to get me through the winter. Oatmeal no mo!

8. Hario hand grinder:  I actually got this for Chris for our one year this week. He's working to cut his Starbucks runs down and I've heard that grinding your beans is a game changer. Hario is supposedly the best affordable option, so I went for it, and he was obsessed. Cannot wait to grind those beans!

9. Brookfarm General Store Denim Roll: I'm always looking for little ways to keep things extra organized and I think this would be awesome in a purse - stick some lotion and cards in it and it's the perfect option to move from purse to purse. 

What are your favorite stocking stuffers? Happy gifting!

And just like that, it's Christmastime!


This holiday season has absolutely flown by and I really don't know how next week is Christmas! I went from zero to 60 in the last week - I'd done pretty much nothing Christmassy to doing a whole lot in a short time. And it was lovely :) 

Last week, I went to Garden Lights, Holiday Nights at the Atlanta Botanical Gardens (ATL Bucket List #25)  with coworkers. It was so much fun and absolutely got me in the holiday spirit. Something about a spiked hot chocolate and shiny lights will do that to you.


(I found some Indiana corn in the gardens)

Over the weekend, I wrapped all of my Christmas gifts and packed them up for my trip home next weekend. I love, love gift giving but really, strongly dislike wrapping them. I rush through it and don't like to measure and it just isn't my scene. Duke and Sam entertained me (or more accurately, I entertained them with my poor skills), while we listened to Christmas music. It made the whole experience much livelier. 

On Saturday night, Chris and I went with his mom to Murphy's for dinner and a gift exchange, then back to the gardens to see the lights again. Even the second time through, they did not disappoint. They were lovely. 





On Sunday, a few of my friends and I went to lunch at Mary Mac's Team Room and the Nutcracker at the Fox (Bucket list #70 and #109), which I hadn't seen since I was really young. I didn't know what to expect but was pleasantly surprised. The whole time I just kept thinking about how athletic they all are - those legs! Impressive. 






To wrap up the weekend, Melissa and I exchanged Christmas gifts. And, of course, drank hot chocolate. 




And now, here we are, just one week away from the merriest holiday of the year. 

I hope your holiday season has been full of cheer!